Do you feel that people take advantage of you?

I’ve got GOOD news and BAD news:

The bad news is; that’s on you

The good news is…That’s OK plus you can do something about it instantly 👊

The main reason that people allow others to take advantage of them is that they fear rejection

Every day on social media I see some genius posting that you shouldn’t “give a fuck” what other people think of you, while themselves using edgy language to gain some sort of reaction ironically proving how much of a fuck they do give what other people think of them.

Why do people fear rejection? It’s the same fear people have of being wrong Of being second best. It’s the fear of being unworthy, of being a shit person

🤗 If a stranger on Facebook calls you a hippy, or a piece of trash and you start to wonder if it’s true

🤗 If your crush laughs in your face and you feel bad

🤗 If someone has a different opinion to the one you read a book about and are now a world-renowned expert in and you must prove them wrong 🥱

It’s because you’re not secure in who you are

When you are secure

🙌 It doesn’t matter what anyone thinks, even if they think you give a fuck, you’re not bothered

🙌 The feeling of rejection lasts at most zero seconds

🙌 People who don’t agree with your expertise are just people with a different level of understanding

and most pertinent of all, and maybe most helpful:

🙌 You can say NO

You don’t have to babysit anyone’s feelings

You don’t care if people exit your life if you don’t meet their expectations (in fact you might just remove them proactively)

And best of all you can do it without turning into some tedious Edgelord going around telling everyone how much of a fuck you don’t give

Here’s how:

1. Make a list of all your beliefs about yourself that impact you negatively

2. Create and adopt new beliefs that contradict those crappy beliefs

3. That’s it

Easier said than done, although nobody ever says to do that

This process is one of the techniques of Mindset Mastery that I will teach you in my program, the Self-Esteem Solution

It’s not very expensive

It’s incredibly effective

The bad news is that you’ve got to do the inner work on yourself

The good news is that you will gain a level of direction, focus and surety that will astonish you

R

The Power of Belief

What if none of your beliefs were true? Even the “deeply held” ones…
 
What would that mean to you?
 
You might be all dramatic and think that if everything you ever believed in wasn’t true, then what’s it all about?
 
Or you could frame it as a good thing because then you could purposefully choose to believe the right things for you
 
The beliefs that would best enable you to achieve your goals
 
😵 “but what if the beliefs that help me the most aren’t true?”
 
People always say that to me
 
Because they don’t know that they’re already choosing their non-legacy beliefs based on their world-view and then justifying them through a cognitive distortion
 
Very little is objectively true 😧
 
Too many fancy concepts there, let’s bring it down…
 
Here’s one very big fucking reason why deciding what to believe can be of huge benefit to you
 
🔥🔥 You can get whatever you want 🔥🔥
 
If you have goals but you don’t believe you’ll get them, you stand no chance
 
If you have goals, no matter how big, and start off with unwavering belief, you are halfway there…
 
“What the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” – Napoleon Hill
 
1. Set the wonderful and amazing goals that you have in your heart
2. Understand where you are now
3. Check out that gap
4. Figure out what beliefs you’ll need to get you there
5. Install those beliefs
 
You’ll be amazed at how quickly you’ll start moving towards those goals
 
If you’ve been treading water for months, maybe years, and can’t quite figure out why
 
This is why:
 
✨ Your current beliefs aren’t Aligned with your goals ✨
 
I’m here to help you figure all this out, because you’ve probably never done this before with any degree of consistency, if at all. Let’s face it, this isn’t taught in schools.
 
I have a program might suit you called Inspired Life: Rebirth or I’m open to 1:1 coaching if that’s more your sort of thing. 
 
R

What’s Your Goddamn Problem?

Whatever you think your problem is, it’s a by-product of actions you’ve taken that were driven by your Mindset.

Unless you change the series of attitudes, beliefs and opinions that created the thing you frame as a problem

You’ll always end up in exactly the same place
This is why people are the same, year after year

🥺Work hard for a promotion, fail the interview, stay in the same job for X more unfulfilling years
🥺You get a coach, learn some strategies, learn that it’s all within, wake up a year later and it’s still within.
🥺Lose some weight, quit the temporary diet, end up weighing the same or more than you did in the first place. WTF!
🥺Dump your inappropriate partner, swipe right on someone who looks hot, it’s the same person in a different body.

Get off that hamster wheel. Please.

Step 1. Figure out exactly what your problem is
Step 2. Isolate the belief system that got you there
Step 3. Change your Mindset to Align with exciting new goals that make your old patterns redundant

This process is so simple even I am able to do it

And I’m the BEST at teaching it

This is one the 3 biggest problems I’ve seen in my clients and mentees over the last 15 years…

Being stuck in a never-ending groundhog day of familiar and unhelpful patterns

My favourite 1:1 intensive will help you break free of this cycle of self-sabotage. I often describe this program’s results as if you were granted 3 wishes and DIDN’T use them like a chump.

A transformational powerhouse of a program including 24 video lessons + supplementary training from my library and 8 1:1 coaching sessions is right now at a “WTAF is going on with the cost of living” low price. As with all my programs, there is an iron-clad guarantee that removes 100% of risk.

Click here to check it out in more detail…

Forgive. For You.

Learning to forgive those who we perceive have done us wrong is extremely difficult

But extremely beneficial

And you don’t need revenge either or accountability or vindication

There’s no profit in feeling bitter or resentful towards anyone else

If you can let go of all those horrible feelings, you are the winner

Next stop

Forgive yourself

That’s the real quiz

R

Why Aren’t I Moving Forward?

You’re not moving forward because you’re fixated on the past~


🤬 Failed once, won’t try again
🤬 Someone called you a nasty name and you still think about it years later
🤬 You’re trying to achieve something that you no longer want and doesn’t fire you up
🤬 You’re staying in a relationship cos of what you once had together
🤬 You’ve been friends for years and while you get nothing out of the relationship, you’ve been friends for years


Any of these sound familiar?


🥱 Societal and familial expectations
🥱 Tradition
🥱 Unhelpful beliefs
🥱 Relationship conventions


They’re an illusion you give life to by paying them heed


If you’re committed to becoming the person YOU want to be you aren’t going to get there by letting other people dictate how you should be acting.


You get to choose who you are in this very moment


And the next moment and the next


Forever


The past doesn’t even have to come into it

  1. Make the firm decision who you want to be
  2. Act like that person as dramatically and histrionically as you like
  3. Check yourself every 15 minutes and think, “Am I being who I want to be”
  4. Every morning look in the mirror and say, “Yeah!” while nodding slowly and arching an eyebrow.

Shedding your unhelpful past and remaking yourself into the kickass genius you always wanted to be is the focus of my Inspired Life: Rebirth program. I often describe this program’s results as if you were granted 3 wishes and DIDN’T use them like a chump.


A transformational powerhouse of a program including 24 video lessons + supplementary training from my library and 8 1:1 coaching sessions is right now at a “WTAF is going on with the cost of living” low price


Contact me for a chat

Never Too Late

Imagine you were 20 years old
You sat down and made a plan for your life
You decided upon half a dozen things you were going to achieve in two decades
And you spent all of your time working towards those things
You changed some of them over the years
But not once did you short-change your future self
In fact because you acted on your goals every day
And reviewed your progress so regularly
You made more progress than you originally planned
When you turn 40…
✅ You’re the envy of your buddies
✅ You don’t have to work for a boss, you’re the boss
✅ You don’t scrape by
✅ You didn’t panic when the virus hit
✅ You’re not stressed
✅ You’re incredibly optimistic about the future 🥂
Now, imagine you didn’t do none of that shit when you were 20
Instead you just partied all the time, worked a crap job
You fell into a couple of promotions
Life’s ok, but you’re unsure about the future
Can you give your kids everything you want?
Can you give YOURSELF everything you want?
Yeah, you can
Do what you should have done 20 years ago
But you’re in an even BETTER position now
You sowed your oats
You drank all the beer/prosecco
You don’t have to worry about those distractions
Just don’t wait another 20 years to pull your finger out of your ass
Want some help?
Let’s talk
R

It’s Not COVID Making You Miserable

What’s making you miserable are your memories and your expectations

What’s come before and what you believe will happen in the future

We can break that down further and just say that it’s the things you are thinking that are preventing your happiness

Imagine how you would feel if you could stop those bad memories from popping up

Or if you could stop fretting about what might happen in the future

How much happier would you be?

My book, High Fiving the Universe, outlines how to do this in simple terms

Even better, it’s free for my buddies and it’s not some lame 10 page PDF either, it’s an actual proper book.

The Secret to Mega Self-Confidence in ANY Social Situation

Imagine if you were invited to a fancy cocktail party where you didn’t know anyone.
 
When you got there you realised that everyone was
 
✅Significantly richer than you
✅Better dressed than you
✅Probably really smug
 
How would you feel?
 
Possibly a little intimidated?
 
A bit concerned how well you’d fit in?
 
Maybe scared of making a fool of yourself…
 
For many people this is a absolute nightmare
 
You might just mutter “fuck it” and turn around and walk right out of there
 
Unless of course you knew the simple secret to be confident
 
Anywhere
 
With anyone
 
Which is…
 
People don’t give a shit about you, they give a shit about themselves 😲
 
That’s it
 
Sound cynical?
 
It’s not, it’s great
 
When you’re thinking, “I hope nobody thinks I’m boring, ugly or stupid.”
 
Other people are thinking, “I hope this new person finds me interesting, attractive and smart.”
 
People are much too concerned with themselves to be concerned with you.
So, how can you use this to your advantage?
 
You can use the No1 most interesting conversation piece ever
 
The other person.
 
😻 Hey, that’s really interesting, I bet you have a really great job
😻 You look amazing in your dress, red really suits you
😻 I never thought of it that way, you’re really smart!
 
Sound cheesy?
 
Sound easy?
 
Maybe, but who cares, it works.
 
Practice those two things and you’ll never struggle again
 
One mindset
 
One strategy
 
If you’re shy or nervous to interact you’re going to miss out
 
There’s no two ways about it
 
If you find yourself wanting, so badly, to get involved but can’t bring
yourself to get the words out
 
Message me and let’s work on changing that
 
R