Sound selfish?
Doesn’t matter.
It’s easier than trying to change someone else.
Make It All About You
Never Too Late
Imagine you were 20 years old
You sat down and made a plan for your life
You decided upon half a dozen things you were going to achieve in two decades
And you spent all of your time working towards those things
You changed some of them over the years
But not once did you short-change your future self
In fact because you acted on your goals every day
And reviewed your progress so regularly
You made more progress than you originally planned
When you turn 40…
✅ You’re the envy of your buddies
✅ You don’t have to work for a boss, you’re the boss
✅ You don’t scrape by
✅ You didn’t panic when the virus hit
✅ You’re not stressed
✅ You’re incredibly optimistic about the future 🥂
Now, imagine you didn’t do none of that shit when you were 20
Instead you just partied all the time, worked a crap job
You fell into a couple of promotions
Life’s ok, but you’re unsure about the future
Can you give your kids everything you want?
Can you give YOURSELF everything you want?
Yeah, you can
Do what you should have done 20 years ago
But you’re in an even BETTER position now
You sowed your oats
You drank all the beer/prosecco
You don’t have to worry about those distractions
Just don’t wait another 20 years to pull your finger out of your ass
Want some help?
Let’s talk
R
It’s Not COVID Making You Miserable
What’s making you miserable are your memories and your expectations
What’s come before and what you believe will happen in the future
We can break that down further and just say that it’s the things you are thinking that are preventing your happiness
Imagine how you would feel if you could stop those bad memories from popping up
Or if you could stop fretting about what might happen in the future
How much happier would you be?
My book, High Fiving the Universe, outlines how to do this in simple terms
Even better, it’s free for my buddies and it’s not some lame 10 page PDF either, it’s an actual proper book.
The Secret to Mega Self-Confidence in ANY Social Situation
Imagine if you were invited to a fancy cocktail party where you didn’t know anyone.
When you got there you realised that everyone was
Significantly richer than youBetter dressed than youProbably really smugHow would you feel?
Possibly a little intimidated?
A bit concerned how well you’d fit in?
Maybe scared of making a fool of yourself…
For many people this is a absolute nightmare
You might just mutter “fuck it” and turn around and walk right out of there
Unless of course you knew the simple secret to be confident
Anywhere
With anyone
Which is…
People don’t give a shit about you, they give a shit about themselves 
That’s it
Sound cynical?
It’s not, it’s great
When you’re thinking, “I hope nobody thinks I’m boring, ugly or stupid.”
Other people are thinking, “I hope this new person finds me interesting, attractive and smart.”
People are much too concerned with themselves to be concerned with you.
So, how can you use this to your advantage?
You can use the No1 most interesting conversation piece ever
The other person.
Hey, that’s really interesting, I bet you have a really great job You look amazing in your dress, red really suits you I never thought of it that way, you’re really smart!Sound cheesy?
Sound easy?
Maybe, but who cares, it works.
Practice those two things and you’ll never struggle again
One mindset
One strategy
If you’re shy or nervous to interact you’re going to miss out
There’s no two ways about it
If you find yourself wanting, so badly, to get involved but can’t bring
yourself to get the words out
Message me and let’s work on changing that
R
Fear of Failure
When you fail or make a mistake
You believe that it says something about you
That, at the very core of your being
You’re not good enough
You’re unworthy
You’re worse than other people who didn’t fail
You know what I’m going to say here, right?
Obviously that’s all complete crap
It doesn’t mean anything about you
Except for one thing
You tried
You made the attempt
You got up off your fat ass and did something
When you look at it that way
You should be more terrified of not failing
Nobody succeeds first time at everything
Competence takes effort!
Imagine never failing
You’d be a drooling idiot
You would have learned NOTHING
At High School I put in zero effort
Because it was all easy
I never failed
And then when I went to University
I was that drooling idiot
I had learned NOTHING
Because I hadn’t tried before that
Enough of my failures
Here’s what you can do to smash the fear of failure…
Start failing
Take that funny feeling in your gut
That apprehension
The worry of “what if”
And make it your signal to GO GO GO!
And then when you fail, learn from it
Take a moment to appreciate what happened and what you can do better next time
Then you can join the ranks of such epic failures as Thomas Edison, Walt Disney, JK Rowling
Total losers like that
Who failed miserably but didn’t give enough of a shit to let it stop them
When you become indifferent to failure
Even welcome it
You will be INVINCIBLE
In my 1:1 program, The Confidence to WIN, I teach my clients how to take the fear of failure and turn it into a lust for success, a massive desire for achievement
No more dithering
No more doubt
Action
Drop me a message and let’s chat
R
Revenge
You First
There are many paths to inner peace.
Here’s one:
1. Count or estimate how many times you’ve done something you didn’t want to do in order to please someone else
2. Compare that number to the amount of times its actually worked
3. Learn the lesson and never do that again
Why Being Right Is Often An Indicator Of Low Self-Esteem
If you’ve ever voiced an opinion on Social Media
You know this to be true:
There’s always someone who will tell you that you’re wrong
Here’s the fun part
If you have even a small amount of self-awarenessYou’ll know that:
You can’t change someone’s mind by arguing at them
Nobody gives a shit about proof
Nobody cares what you think anyway
So arguing is a waste of time
I much prefer
Stating my opinion
Reading your opinion
Living a happy life
If your opinion is different to mine
Big fucking deal
If you have low self-esteem however
You need to PROVE yourself right and bend other people to your way of thinking
You’ll try to be clever and foolishly believe other people are reading your words and thinking “o o he’s intelligent”
You’ll put laugh emojis on imagining that anyone gives a shit
And maybe some people do give a shit, but they’ve also got low self-esteem and need to prove themselves in the court of public opinion
People with high self-esteem are prepared to be wrong
For multiple reasons but the one that’s germane here
Is that being wrong doesn’t impact how they feel about themselves
They don’t need to prove themselves because they have great self-worth
Their self-esteem doesn’t come from what they THINK other people believe of them
But from what they KNOW of themselves
This is one of the first major mindset breakthroughs I teach my 1:1 clients in my 3 month coaching course, the Confidence to WIN. I not only help you uncover false beliefs that keep you back, but empower you to decide what you are going to believe about yourself
Send me a message if you’d like to have a quick chat about how you can create unstoppable self-belief and change your life forever.
