Or do you think you’re so awesome that you should win every time?
I’ll have some of what you’re having 🥴
When you step outside your comfort zone and have even a small degree of success, you are 42% more likely to try again. That can of course be increased to 100% if you know how.
A small part of the secret is to re-frame what you consider to be success.
Stepping outside your comfort zone is in itself an incredible victory, one from which you can take heart.
When you take no action, you ensure your own total and utter lack of success
Try or not, you increase your chance of taking a similar path the next time a choice presents itself.
When you work with me you begin to
✅Transform failure into your personal accelerated learning plan ✅Laugh in the face of “setbacks” ✅Turn rejection and dejection into inspiration and motivation
You haven’t changed who you are, merely what you do
And when that didn’t work quickly enough
You gave up
😤😤
You need to change what’s inside
Your external self will always mirror your internal reality
Whenever you change how your subconscious/spirit/soul views you
Your physical self will work hard to match
If you see yourself as a smoker or an over-eater or a failure
So shall you be
But should you convince your inner self that you are
✅successful
✅healthy
✅confident
✅bold
That will become your reality
As with every “secret” the concept is simple
the execution, another matter entirely
My coaching program, The Confidence To WIN, empowers you to choose your own beliefs, which in turn re-creates you, on your own terms, from the inside out.
Someone who is perfectly attractive and yet insists they have issues with their appearance
I have
Until I realised how self-esteem worked
Because if someone thinks they look bad
No matter how much you tell them they look good
They will think they look bad
You’ve probably been there too
✅You’re having a bad hair day
✅You look fatter today for some reason
✅Your clothes don’t fit right
✅You’ve got a zit even though you’re 37
and your significant other says
“You look fine” 🤮
And you know they’re just saying that
Because in fact you look like shit
I used to feel like that a lot but I had an excellent coping mechanism
Booze
Who doesn’t feel more attractive after a few drinks?
Obviously that’s not a permanent solution
So a couple of years ago I happened upon (worked my ass off to achieve) the perfect solution
🔥I did something about it
🔥I changed myself
🔥I assumed control of my body, my mind and future
Self-Esteem out the wazoo
I don’t care now if I’m having a bad hair day
Or if I’ve got a zit and I’m 43
If I’m fat and my clothes don’t fit, well that’s a matter of poor planning on my side so I became more organised
And anyone who’s willing to put the work in
No matter how good looking
Or otherwise
They think they are
Can do the same 😀
PM me or drop “NICE” in the comments and I’ll start you off with 3 tools to significantly increase your attractiveness levels with the minor long-term side effect of increasing your self-esteem
I have a very different approach to stress management than most people I talk to. I want to note first of all that I’m no doctor and this is what’s helped me and may well help you but for any health issues, a doctor is always a great option.
When I first started becoming successful in the Leadership sphere I began to extend my working hours. I worked longer hours and was always on call, constantly checking my emails and spent much of my time socializing with people from work. I worked away from home a lot and frequently added more and more to my plate in order to prove myself.
All a complete waste of time. Companies are rarely grateful for that level of effort and they certainly didn’t pay me double for working 90 hours a week.
I started having trouble sleeping and my mother noticed that my face was red all the time. My doctor asked me if I was suffering from stress and I scoffed at the thought. I was young, successful and kicking ass, how could I be stressed?
But I was and I just didn’t know it. And I knew nothing of stress management.
Of course it caught up with me in the end and I had to step back from working myself into the ground.
It hurt and I vowed to never let myself get into that position again.
Now, I avoid stress like the plague. Because it is like a plague. It’s dangerous. Lethal even.
Stress Management
Here are 3 incredibly powerful techniques I use in managing stress levels.
Narrowing Thoughts
This is quite controversial as people in my immediate vicinity don’t like it
I try to keep the things I think about to a minimum. This consists of things like:
✅Mindfulness ✅Writing Things Down ✅Utilizing a Calendar ✅Removing the Minutiae
While I forget more things now than I used to I’m fine with it.
Not Taking Things Personally
One thing that really used to annoy me is if someone didn’t have the same opinion as me.
How stupid does that sound when you read it?
In fact a lot of people are like that. If they see something they don’t agree with they try to change other people’s opinions, get into arguments or even impact their relationships in their desperation to be correct.
Now I just don’t care, because anyone can have any opinion. It doesn’t make me wrong or make my opinion less valuable to me.
Where this also helps is when I get “haters”. For example when someone
😡Doesn’t like the way I drive 😡Doesn’t like something I write on my site or social media 😡Doesn’t agree with my thoughts on Self-Mastery or Life Coaching
and sends me an angry or abusive or sarcastic comment or message
I let it wash over me like water off a duck’s back.
I don’t take it personally.
Angry people are angry with themselves, not me. Negative people don’t need me making their life worse by getting adding even more negativity.
I don’t need their negativity either and I refuse to take it on board.
Say NO
I just say NO
People are astonished at this one
Generally my rule of thumb is:
If it’s not advancing my goals, I don’t do it
This is extremely liberating. I don’t let myself feel shamed into doing anything I don’t really want to.
🥂Say NO to time wasting activity 🥂Say NO to other people’s dramas 🥂Say NO to almost everything
Saying “no” to others is saying “yes” to yourself.
There you have it, you have to be brave to assume control of your life and the harsh reality is that you may lose friends when you do.
But you’ll be taking control of your life and managing your stress for those who most need you.
I became a Life Coach in Newcastle to help people, which is no rare thing for someone in this profession, but it started off with a very specific group of people.
For 15 years I’ve lived in Newcastle Upon Tyne and have grown to look upon this city as my home. You only need to speak with me to know I’m not a local, but my fondness for the people of Northeast England shouldn’t be underestimated. My children will grow up as Geordies and their mother is about as dyed-in-the-wool a Novocastrian as you can get.
There is one thing I would change in an instant.
The fixed mindset.
There are many factors that contribute to the preponderance of the fixed mindset in this part of the world and I’m not going to delve into them. My knowledge of the socio-political landscape is surface-level at best and I’m sure some brainbox would jump on the opportunity to shove my ignorance in my face.
Local Life Coaching
It’s enough to say that, globally, self-belief is a rare commodity and equally so in this wonderful corner of the world.
Many people just don’t see their potential.
They doubt the possibility of social mobility
They don’t believe in themselves
But I do believe in them and I want to help as many people as I can to break through their social conditioning, smash through the fixed mindset and assume control of their lives.
It’s also fair to say that as a Life Coach in Newcastle it’s easier for me to work with local folk, simply because it’s more enjoyable and efficient to work with people face-to-face.
You build stronger bonds, quicker and get results faster.
While I’m not the cheapest (and why would anyone want the cheapest) Life Coach in Newcastle, I do consider myself amongst the very best in the UK and I’d like to dispel any misgivings by offering a 30% discount on any 1-2-1 or package coaching to anyone residing in the region.
So you could hire me to help you attain Self-Mastery or take advantage of my mentoring and coaching systems at a greatly reduced price.
Reach out to me and let’s have a brief chat about your needs.
